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writes:My bf and I are were looking to move together and finally we found an apartment and got approved. But the move in date is the exact day that Im leaving on vacation for a month and a half. I am kind of scared to tell him im leaving for that long because I know he doesn't want to be by himself in a new apartment and location. But the thing is my mother who paid for the plane tickets, and I planned this trip way before he and I met. And I did not know when or if he was going to be approved for an apartment. I understand it'll be hard for him, but i've promised him i'd be talking to him everyday so that he doesn't feel alone. Idk if I should just go for less time and change my plane ticket or if he should just understand that this trip was planned way before we met and he should just wait till I get back in a monthand a half.He is 25, and I am 22. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 November 2015):
 Why doesn't he know about the vacation already? Why the secrecy?
It shouldn't be a big deal that you have a pre-planned vacation coming up.
And hopefully your BF is a "big boy" who can manage to be alone in a new apartment while you are gone. OP you make him sound like a sad little dog, not a young man. It sounds also quite co-dependent in a unhealthy manner.
to quote you:
"I know he doesn't want to be by himself in a new apartment and location."
"but i've promised him i'd be talking to him everyday so that he doesn't feel alone."
You aren't gone that long. It will be good for him to learn to stand on his own two feet. UNLESS he has some major separation anxieties or the likes.
So TALK to him NOW. If he can't handle living there while you are on vacation.... what would he do if you two broke up?
He is 25, OP not 5.
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