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writes:hey everyone!Well ive hit a patch in my marriage where i dont know if i should stay or go. I love my husband very much.We've been married 1 year and 4 months hes been deployed for 1 year and 2 months hell be home for RNR next week but all we are doing is fighting i mean its been a non-stop battle between us since as long as i can remeber he asks me to be there for him when he treats me like crap and hes not even tryin to be there for me.I know he's over there and its stressfull but im here alone and all i ever hear is you dont do this or your cheatin your a bit*h f you you dont love me anymore and then last nite he told me that ive changed like i dont care anymore and yes honestly i have but its cause im tired of being put down and treated like i dont matter.I tired to commit suicide it was so bad and then he said i scared him and the other night he cried sayin he doesnt want to be this man he wants to be a good husband but then today the accusations again and again well go 3 or 4 days then were back to fightin and i cant take it anymore.I have no friends because of him anymore my family hates him now and i want to be with him but i dont know if its the right thing to do. I've talk to him and told him i cant do this anymore and if he keeps on im leaving and he promised hed try to stop but it hasnt at all its gotten worse and he told me last nite that he doesnt like what ive become he wants his wife back but he made me this way and im so afriad thatll well never be the same again what should i do? Should i continue to be unhappy for another 3 months and see what happens when he gets home home or should i go now before its to late and i cant bring myself to? Please help me!!!!!! I love him more then anything else in this world. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): I feel what you are going thru . . same thing here except I am not deployed. I left the Army due to issues that you are experiencing, thought it would help things but it's still all messed up. We fight all the time, when we aren't fighting we are bickering and or having sex. It's like an emotional roller coster. I myself am questioning what to do. I love him with all my heart and I know it's not just him, it's me too. I just want a normal life ya know. I would say try to work it out, hopefully it will be different when he comes back. I pray for you!
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reader, Natzz  +, writes (13 August 2007):
Hello sweetheart.you cant stay with somebody based on love.this man is puttin you down.you need to think about your self and make the decision thats rite for you. If you stay it will carry on.its verbal abuse.no man or woman deserves that.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (12 August 2007):
 You have two options.
1. You both go to a marriage counsellor and talk your troubles thru with a professional. See if you can both find some common ground with your husband to strengthan the marriage.
2. Throw in the towel,if you feel you have given it your best shot. No-one should make you feel suicidal,if ever you feel like that talk to The Samaritans who specialises in these matters.
This guy must get anger management too.
Let me know how you both get on hun Dusky x
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