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writes:I have been dating this guy for 8 months. He says he loves me,he compliments me,but at time he nick picks me from my head to my toes. I have told him it makes me feel uncomfortable, he says I am too sensitive. He is good when he is good and he is bad when he mad. He says rude things, withdraws when ever we have an argument or a disagreement. I am usually the one to call, text to continue the relationship. (this is after not speaking for 3 or more days). I really like him, but it takes two. I quess I am asking should I just leave him alone and see if he calls me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2014): If you truly value yourself and don't want to stay in a verbally abusive relationship, why aren't you just going to tell him it's over for good and mean it?
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reader, fancypants +, writes (20 April 2014):
fancypants is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers. I concur, it's been 4 days and I have not heard from him. I am vowing not to call. I value my self worth. I refuse to be in an verbal abusive onesided relationship. I will keep you all posted.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 April 2014):
 I'd just end the relationship, you are 50+ and don't need any nit-picking to change you. A man doing that and then accusing me of being too sensitive: *poof* he's gone! Buh-bye!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2014): I really would cool this relationship a little.
He sounds spoilt and a little selfish.
Maybe you should try ignoring his bad behaviour and get on with having fun with other people and interests as he seems to neither appreciate, respect or value you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2014): Just break up with him. A good relationship isn't only good half of the time. It shouldn't be really bad when you have an argument enough for it to be somewhat regular. Having minor disagreements about little things is common, but having bad arguments regularly isn't acceptable.
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reader, cattycakes  +, writes (19 April 2014):
He is emotionally abusive. I married someone like that and it was one of the worst decisions of my life. Things ratcheted up and he made me feel I was being unreasonable, then complimented me. He would show me up in front of other people. He would go into sulks or drive me somewhere in a scary rage, anything to reduce me down. I left when he bit me. Since then I was contacted by his next wife, who traced me via Facebook. It had become even worse. He hit her. He started off exactly like your description. He always used romantic gestures to bring me around, but got a kick out of the cycle of abuse. Google it to see if you recognise. Then run for the hills!
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