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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:ive been with my girfriend for 4yrs nearly she we met one night kissed it went from there with txting meeting up kissing more etc come prom as neither of us openly had said we wanted a relationship she made out with as many guys as should could playing a game with her mates.. i understood n decided i should ask her she accepted..my ex then finds out (shortly after finding out she was a mum to be n jumps in saying the kid was mine i was still talking to her trying to be a friend) shocked n stunned i told my parents we wnet through the proceedings of finding out etc. it werent mine!. but during that time it my gf took it really hard had a did some stuff with a couple of people one she denys yet i fount a letter under the bed in a storage box i use.. bad place to put it i knoww so i quizzed her about it n to this day she says he was just being wierd my prob n hurt comes from the fact she cant/wont explain what made her keep the letter without telling me, you know to warn me if something was said...thats was our first couple of years we thought through but i cant get it outta my mind but i have understanding as she still worrys about my ex i do my best to reasure her but her reaction to my discumfort is aggression or defensiveness...now we came to a new prob we bothed worked at woolies so are now unemployed and can nolonger afford to rent a house. we would have to live at our parents houses n live a fare distance away...i love her loads but im wondering with all the mixed issues n the not knowing when we may next see each other whether i should call it off ive discussed it with her but she seldom gives me answer as to what she thinks.. so my question after all with been through should i stick to it for as long as i can all call it a day..even more so is the fact we are very different she likes goin out still i prefer home as i just dont enjoy drinking clubbing etc yet she does. my worry is this could spark new worrys of distrust..so im guess im saying should i take the bullet and call it off as my attempts to resolve it together have all been in vain thus far..sorry for the long post just trying to lay the picture that we enjoy each other company but have issues etc love being with each other but still have very different enjoyments in life...
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reader, Sexy cat  +, writes (28 June 2009):
I know this is hard 4 u but i think u have to dump her not really "dump" but let her go by the way u wrote about her it sounds like she is kind of a playboy, and also that ur living far away from her and who knows she might be seeing someone else when u come to find her.I hope this helps good luck and remember it's ur decision :)
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