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Should I call him, or leave him forever?

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Question - (8 October 2007)

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A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said me during a discussion that he didn't want to marry me or had a serious relationship with me he only wanted to see me some times. He was very clear about that and i doubt that he did't mean it.There is also a posibility that he was angry with me that moment and wanted to make me unhappy. I am very disappointed. Do you think that i should stop to call or meet him again? Do you think that there is a posibility to change his mind? Or i should leave him for ever?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

I think guys are pretty simple, he is telling you who he is and where he is at emotionally and in his life right now....so take him at his word. If you want to call him to stay in touch, that is up to you.

But, I would be busy with your own life, let him pursue you if he is going to, and don't take all of his calls, only return his calls within 24 hours, and be sure and say things like I can't see you Tuesday, but how does Friday work for you. If you get the chance let him see that you aren't waiting on him, you have your own life, are seeing other men, and having fun and enjoying yourself, this will make you more desirable and valuable in his eyes.

If a guy wants to see you, he will make some time, no matter how busy he is.

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A male reader, Danielepew +, writes (8 October 2007):

Dear Greek, just leave him forever. He just wants to use you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

Keep well away from him. He doesnt make you feel good about yourself so why should you go running after him. Have some pride and walk away and keep walking, you do deserve better. You should feel like you are on cloud 9 when you are with someone, so stop thinking about contacting him and keep him out of your life.

take care

xxx

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A female reader, Tigerlily +, writes (8 October 2007):

The fact that you are disapointed and hoping to change his mind clearly indicates that you are looking for something more. But look at your history with this guy... he's always too busy to spend time with you... regardless of his excuses a guy who is really into a girl will make time. I would believe him when he says he only wants to see you sometimes, because that's how he's played it all along. It's just taken him a year to actually spell it out for you.

If he was mad, he may have just suspended his interest in saving your feelings to the point where he actually told you the truth. Unfortunately I think this guy is just not that into you. I wouldn't waste any more time with him. Move on. And going forward, pay attention to what men DO... not what they say. A guy who is genuinely interested in you will make it happen.

Sorry to be harsh, it seems like you like him, but you deserve better and to not waste anymore time with a guy who is ultimately just going to let you down.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):

Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?

I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):

Well, has it been a meaningful relationship? Were you happy with him, even though you Don't see him alot? You need to decide if the relationship is worth it. Then you really need to wait and see what he does. Sometimes people say stuff they dont mean when they are angry. if hes not serious then you really dont need to be involved with him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

Stop contacting him. He needs to appreciate how wonderful you are and the best way for that to happen is for him to realise what he is missing out on.

If you don't ever hear from him then the two of you were just not meant to be.

Good luck and try and be strong.

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