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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyoneI just wanted to hear other people's view points on this.My girlfriend broke up with me on march the 1st. It was long distance. We had been together for 3 years. she said it was a temporary break up until we could live together in 2016 and she still loved me so much etc and we would talk the same as before etc. She also asked me to not tell my parents or my friends about it so that they wouldn't think badly about her.Of course, that didn't happen. after a few weeks she stopped saying she loved me and stopped replying quickly. However she did seem to be talking about this guy often, i will call him "Knob" for the purpose of this text. she then removed my name from her relationship status on facebook 1 month later but left "in a relationship". I then went on holiday to see my brother for 3 weeks and whilst on holiday she continuously tried to guilt trip me saying i shouldn't meet other girls and that she felt sad we didnt talk often.since i got home she has not spoken to me often at all.Yesterday she posts a new photo to facebook and knob writes on it and says he loves her, she says she loves him and they have one of those "nooo, i love you more" type moments.So clearly she left me for this guy from the start and officially started the relationship with knob when she removed my name from facebook at the start of April. I was on holiday in May when she tried to make me feel guilty and its now July yet she has never told me anything.So she not only lied to me, she asked me to tell no one so i had no support and she then tried to make me feel bad whilst on holiday after she had already presumably found a new bf anyway.My question is this, now i know. what should i do?Ignore her or send her a message telling her that i am disappointed in her lies? I feel like she deserves to be told what a coward she has been.Fortunately i knew from the moment she said "temporary" that it wasn't going to be temporary and its just an easy way out for people, so i did my grieving in march, however i just hate the attempt to cause me that much suffering and toy with my emotions whilst on holiday and the lack of honesty with me after 3 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): Original poster here.
I sent the message and blocked her on everything.
Thanks to both of you for the good advice!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 July 2015):
 If it make YOU feel better write her a note, telling her JUST how you feel. I think she deserves to hear it.
I also think she was seeing "knob" while still pretending to date you. And that she asked for a "break" so she could walk away from you without being the "bad guy". She should JUST have been honest with you.
Now when you write that note, BE honest and don't over do the "woe is me", then you hit send. After that.. don't EVEN bother waiting for a reply. BLOCK, delete and un-friend her on EVERYTHING. Tell your family she dumped you for "Knob" and that you are glad she finally showed her true colors (liar) and a cheat - IF it makes you feel better, you don't OWE her squat. And you certainly don't owe her to paint her as a nicer person than she really is.
You should have cut the contact in March.
Time for you to move on and move up. And I suggest next time you find a GF.... don't find one who is going to be LD. Find someone local. Don't settle for an "imaginative relationship".
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): IF it will help you move forward and leave this behind you-tell her.
But do NOT engage in a conversation!
There is no ifs,buts etc.
2016 is not happening (btw,very risky+very selfish of her to ask you to wait while she plays the field)
Say whatever is on your mind.Then delete from FB, delete from skype, block her e-mail and block her number.
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