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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi lately i keep dreaming about my ex gf. We went out for almost 3 years and we broke up (I believe we were so much in love when we together). Btw I'm 25 and she is 22. First she tried to work things out between us but I didnt want it because I was being dumb to realize how much she loves me (I realize it later on). So after I find out I was lonely (missing her) i tried to get her back, I even do everything for her, but she reject me.So later on I found out she dating someone, and somehow i was so jealous and me, her and the new guy got into argument. She told me to leave her alone.So I was so depressed, the new guy is my friend also, and he knows that i still love her and wants her back on that time. SO after that big fight, I did NC and try to rebuild my self. I started dating others, and there is this girl that interested but I dont want to. Because No one can compare my ex. So i stop dating because I dont think I'm ready to have new relationship. Im doing the healthy way, I work out, my grade getting better in school. I keep improving my self. I know until now i still have feeling for her, but i know if i love her that much i suppose to leave her alone be happy with the new guy. I havent really talk to her after that big argmuent. She never call me but I called about two times but she dont pick up the phone. So I heard that they broke up, I was happy and sad on the same time. I want to build a new friendship with her again, but I dont think I want to get back with her even though I still have this little feeling for her. Maybe in the future i want to go out with her again, cause she was my first love, maybe this is a genuine love? but i dont think im ready to have relationship with anyone.So should I call her or talk to her again? or should i just waited until she is really done with him? I think she still in love with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Hey man,
You should Text message her with something like, fun joke and say: I was just thinking about you with those girls around me..or something FUN anyway.
You have to make her feel attraction again.
No the love bullshit forget it is ATTRACTION. Do not wait until she is done with him FIGHT BACK if you really care. But not like wussy : I am missing you how are you my love.
You have to treat her now like she is another girl from dating scene.
But use your advantages: 1) You know her pretty well 2) You did had sex with her for 3 years so you know what she likes in bed (so you can use kinky messages also etc..
Remember is not your girlfriend anymore so you just have to start all over again.
Longer you wait longer will forget you completly and the more "another girl from dating scene" she will become.
You know this she does not..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I think it is a clear sign she does not want to talk to you, and you should stop chasing her. If even now she is not picking up the phone, she is prolly having her own issues to deal with and can not deal with you now in her life. At the same time I think you are ready to get out there and meet some other girls. Ok maybe none will be great as her but how will you know if you don't get to know them? Yes I know it takes time and effort to get to know new girls but still, I think you owe it to yourself to do that. Besides each girl has uniqueness in them, you should explore your options. Don't think of the relationship yet...just start meeting new people 1st and see if anything comes out of it.
In any case there isn't anything you can do if she wont answer your calls. I'm sure if you contact her she will just be confused and have u as a rebound relationship. While you were out making yourself a better person, she has been in a relationship so maybe she needs some time for herself now.
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