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writes:I have been married for 4 years. I have 2 little girls 3 and 1. The last year has been quite bad in our marriage and we even spoke together about divorce on a couple occasions. we decided to work on it, but i am not in love with him or even remotely attracted to him anymore. I've decided that I want a divorce, but don't want to do that during the holidays. He has really low self esteem and trust issues and I don't know how to keep turing down sex without hurting his feelings. I care about him and don't ever want anything bad to happen to him, but I just cannot be with him anymore. Should i bring up the divorce now or wait and if i wait, how can i get through the times he needs sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): God this must be really hard for you, I'm sure you'll get people who will criticise you for your decision but, I think to keep you both stable thinkers, I think it should you should divorce him ASAP. The quicker and faster it's over the better for you both. I hope the both of you still remain friends and never forget who are the most the most in this relationship/divorce which would be you 2 beautiful daughters you both have made together. Who knows maybe if the divorce is over and done you 2 could maybe become real good friends and you could help him with his confidence issues.
Well got 2 go ...Hope it all works out! =)
Lynne x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Only four years? Girl there are people that have been married for 60. Work through it, for you and your childern. you married him for a reason, find that reason again.
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Doesn't anyone still believe in finding out what the issues are and trying to work their issues out. It's not easy, if it was it wouldn't be called work.
Let me ask you a question. Was there anytime during your marriage you were remotely attracted to him or loved him?
No I think you should wait to tell him. If he's all ready depressed, the holidays have the highest suicide rate. That would be really fueling something like that to tell him before the holidays.
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