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writes: Hi everyone,I am thinking of leaving my husband, he is an only child and of course which is natural, his mother thinks the world of him.We got married less that 2 years ago, dont have sex anymore, he walked out on me before, but we managed to get back together, i move to his country to be with him.Anyhow, the last time we visited his parents house, she just had a wedding picture of my husband on his own, i noticed this prior to us having dinner then afterwards his mum must have remembered and change the picture to the two of us....i feel i am not really accepted..they are just nice to me for my husbands sake. my husband says its just to do with him being an only child and all.....i said nothing..but i feel unwanted.Anyhow i am moving back home to my own country, my husband says he will follow me over, but he is only doing this to be with me and i know in my heart and soul that he is not very happy to move, this is worrying me. I have to go, as i miss my family so much and want to be independant and to have my own money again, cant get a descent job here as the language barrier is a problem and believe me i have really tried.Sometimes i think we would be better off going out separate ways, as then at least we would both be where we want to be...i am so tormented in what the best thing to do is, i have considered staying here, but the though makes me so unhappy and i need to go home. Its got to the stage where i am having dreams about this!!!Is there any hope for us, i hate to see my husband unhappy, but i cant to somewhere i know i will be unhappy also.....should we split up, as i feel this will always come up!!! We have talked and talk about this over and over again, my husband new exactly what i wanted when we met, so he acts like i am being unfair.Please help me with your suggestionsThanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Original poster of message:
Thank you for your advice.
i truly love my husband and would hate the thoughts of him not being in my life, but i would hate to see him unhappy ao, I suppose i am just concerned he will not be happy and this in turn will affect our marriage.
Its a risk i have to take, i suppose and hope for the best.
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reader, shania  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Ask yourself this, could you imagine life without him? Do you still love him? He's willing to move back with you so he sounds more committed in this relationship, i wouldn't worry too much about the photographs, his mother obviously,hasn't let go of the apron strings, quite a common thing in only children...
Only you can decide with time, and you have plenty of that, you dont have any children so it wont be such a wrench if you do split up.Maybe this move will be a fresh start for you both? You need to talk more, but i feel its you with the itchy feet....
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