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anonymous
writes:Should I break up with my boyfriend?I love him to pieces but I'm not a good girlfriend. I've never cheated, but I'm very flirty and I struggle with the intimate stuff (I'd blame my past, abusive relationships, but I should be old enough to make my own way in life now, regardless of my upbringing)Long story short, he can do much better than me.I dont want to hurt him, but I'm worried that whatever I do I'm gonna break his heart. We've been together 4 years and we've grown a lot both as people and as a couple.I've explained my fears and he dismissed them as my fears of intimacy rearing their head and me just over thinking.I hope I am just over thinking. But I needed to get some opinions from a 3rd party.Thanks in advance,Anon x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2015): Sorry about the repeated comments. The page flipped on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2015): You know flirting when you have a boyfriend is wrong. So, don't do it!
Practice some self-control and self-discipline. Own some responsibility in your relationship.
Stop using excuses to ruin your FOUR YEAR-OLD relationship.
Something is working if it has lasted that long. Cut your foolishness, child!
If you've been abused, then you must seek professional counseling to help you deal with the lingering and recurring trauma. If he's good to you and has stuck it out this long, he wants to be. He wouldn't purposely waste four long years of his life; when it could have been someone else. He'd leave of his own free-will, if he had any reason.
If you can't see that, you need counseling a lot more than writing to us. You may be feeling signs of depression and should first see a medical doctor. A general practitioner
will make a referral; if there is anything other than something physiological at the root of your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2015): You know flirting when you have a boyfriend is wrong. So, don't do it! Practice some self-control and self-discipline.
Stop using excuses to ruin your FOUR YEAR-OLD
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (28 August 2015):
 Whether you "should" be over your past doesn't mean you ARE over your past. STop flirting with others, see a counselor to see what they think in terms of unresolved issues, but don't write yourself off quite yet! You recognize there's room for improvement, and that says something.
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