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writes:for some backround info: i'm 18 and i have a 26 year old boyfriend. we have been dating since october 5th and on valentines day told me he was in love with me. i have just recently began staying over at his house. my parents have many issues with this. my dad is soon to be ordained a deacon this coming june so to no suprise they're very old school. no premarital sex, cohabitation.. stuff like that. i was immediately upfront and truthful with them about my spending the night and automatically assumed they'd put two and two together and realise we were having sex. a couple days later, when we talked about me staying, i discovered that they were still in denial and under the assumption that we have never had sex. i'm debating on whether to come clean to them about this (which would have grave consequences) or give it more time until i tell them. my fear is that they will kick me out. i dont know if they would, though, if they thought/knew i'd just go live with my bf. so my question is: should i break the news to my old school parents about my having sex with my boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (9 April 2011):
 you are 18 and so legally an adult. Your sexual life is no one's business except as a private relationship between you and your boy friend. though i do hope you are using protection.
If your parents wish to be in denial then that is their problem.
I would expect that in public you and your boy friend act respectfully towards
each other.
In private your relationship with your bf
is no one elses business. People have survived worst things than being kicked out of home at 18. You will leave home eventially, so now might be a good time
to mentally prepare for doing so, at some later date.
If your parents want to be in denial about their daughter then let it be. Don't stir up and muddy the waters
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