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writes:There's This boy I've been talkin to since September, and I've fallen in love with him. But recently we've just stopped seeing each other and he's barely been talking to me. I didnt see him in a month and when I did, it was only for a few minutes. He just doesnt seem interested anymore and the time I seen him, he told me he started talking to someone else, so now I understand why I havent seen him or really spoken to him. And we arent together, hvnt been since we first started talking but we have more than just a friendship. And I shouldnt be mad because I'm also talking to someone else but its because I know he's no good for me so I wanted to move on. But now I'm just hurt because I brought up the topic of us being together again and he doesnt think I'm trust worthy, and he says "why cant we be friends?" I love him too much to be friends with him. I dont want to be his friend and see on Facebook his "in a relationship status" I just feel that all I've given him, for him to tell me lets be friends, breaks my heart. So now I'm torn because I want to let him go. I rather lose him altogether than have to setlle with him being just a friend, but The other part of me says I should be happy to still have him in my life, even if its just a friend. And if I love him, truly love him, then I'd be happy for him no matter who he's with, even if it's not me. Should I block his number, delete him off Facebook and try to move on? Or should I try the friendship thing ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): @lifeinsonnetform yes ur soo right, thats exactly how I look at it
@mhxx yes thats a good idea, ur right.. Thats exactly what I'm gunna do. Thnk yu both !
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reader, mhxx  +, writes (3 August 2011):
You don't need to block him and cut him out of your life completely. How you're feeling right now is awful, I have been there, and I know you probably feel like it will never go away, but it will ease and go away with time. Deleting him and blocking him off is a very permanent solution to a temporary problem. If in the future you decide you want to and are able to have a friendship with this guy, you will want to still have his number, and have him as a friend on facebook, without having to go through the awkward re-adding, "I thought we were already friends on this" thing.
Maybe for now write him number down and put it in a box in your room, where you know it is, but delete it off your phone, and stop him from appearing on your newsfeed on facebook. Then, when you are ready to move on and try a friendship with him, you are able to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): Friendship alone could never be enough for you; your feelings run too deep and none of them are reciprocated by him. For the sake of your heart, cut ties and move on. There will be others :) Good luck and take care x
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