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writes:I just need some advice on this, me and my boyfriend been together for 2 yrs and we always had trust issues, he lives with his mom and sister and his sister has a lot of female friends who go to the house, now she has a friend who she just met and the first time i met her she was VERY friendly to him we was actually going to a party me him his sister and her and she was staring at him and me alot but i didn't think anything at that moment, know a couple of months later im at the house and she comes in with his sister and sees him at the room but doesn't see me yet and says hi to him and when she finally sees me she says "oh hi" and starts giving him a weird look like she was mad at him or something and then starts looking at me so to make a long story short i ask him about that and he says he didnt notice her looking at him, now i go to his house a couple days ago and i happen to look at his cell phone and notice he has her number and i ask him whats this he says he has it because she might need somebody to babysit her son so if she cant find nobody she'll call him. Should I believe this me knowing he likes to lie a lot? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 November 2009):
 PLEASE READ ON....And think real hard about it. I live my life by this rule. It does not fail me. It will not fail you either.
The Rule of Three Lies
When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One lie, one broken promise or a single neglected responsibiltiy may be a misunderstanding instead. Two may involve a serious mistake. But three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the lynchpin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly. Do not give your money, your work, your secrets or your affection to a three-timer. Your valuable gifts will be wasted.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Basically you know this guy lies a lot, so you can never really know if you're hearing the truth or not! If he really loves you, he should tell you the truth. How does he treat his mother/sister/friends? Does he lie to them too, or just you? If it's just you, I'd leave him before he breaks your heart, better a little pain now than a lot more down the track!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): I dated a woman for three years who was a compulsive liar. We had trust issues right off the bat. I had faith in her and forgave her time, and time again. I caught her in several lies, with evidence, and yet she'd still deny the accusations.
I don't know the man personally, but the odds are if this has been the case for two years that he is hiding something from you.
Personally my trust issues never went away, they only got worse over time. If this is the case with your situation, you may want to get out now before more time is wasted on someone who won't stop their behavior.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 If you already know that he likes to lie a lot, chances are he is telling lies again.
If this other girl needs his number to call as an emergency babysitter, his number will be on HER PHONE, her number doesnt need to be on his! It is very possible for me to list my babysitters number, or my mechanics, or even my mother's who doesnt have a cell, without them needing to have my number.
In other words you just caught him out in a lie!
What concerns me is the fact you seem okay with the fact he lies, this isnt going to help you trust him at all, nor will it help you feel secure in the relationship. Why are you still with him?
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