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writes:I've just discovered that my new partner of 6 months is or was bisexual, although she doesn't identify herself as this. Should I be worried? Reply to this Question
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reader, welsh-biker +, writes (7 May 2008):
welsh-biker is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks again, for the replies, I have talked to her since, which was a bit difficult for her, but I'm patient, it seems that from her past relationships, trust was a big factor as in the lack of, it just takes her longer to trust someone.
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reader, welsh-biker +, writes (6 May 2008):
welsh-biker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again for the replies, it is making me a little more confused though, as I have bisexual friends and know how turbulent their relationships have been, I can't discuss this with my partner as she doesn't want to talk about it, as its in her "past" and doesn't like bringing it up, but is more than happy to pass comment on mine. thanks for the replies though they have been helpful. :-)
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reader, welsh-biker +, writes (6 May 2008):
welsh-biker is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank you for the replies, been helpful to me, what i was more worried about was the lack of trust and honesty she has towards me, as I have been completely honest and she has passed judgement on some of the things I have done. I have been understanding towards her in every respect, and she hasn't it seems that I'm left to find out things, about her third party through her friends, and knowing that they all know about her past and orientation, I felt like an idiot, and its not an ego thing!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): She either is bisexual or she isn't. How she identifies herself is irrelevent (a gay man could identify as straight but that doesn't make him not gay if you know what I mean. If she is bisexual then that is what she is. It doesn't mean she will be unfaithful it just means she is attracted to both men and women. Of course it could mean she is more attracted to women then men but only she knows that.
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reader, welsh-biker +, writes (6 May 2008):
welsh-biker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the reply, I should have been a bit clearer, I found out about her being bi-sexual through a conversation i had with her, she didnt volunteer the information, i had to ask, and when i did, she just said she doesnt class herself as bi, but since then sex has tapered off. and she has distanced herself a little from me.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (6 May 2008):
Most people are attracted to the opposite sex at some point. Even research shows very few people are completely heterosexual or completely gay.
As you've been dating for six months without any problems then its unlikely there would be in the future.
If you're concerned, talk to her about it, Im sure she'll put your mind at rest.
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