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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship for about a year now. I love my boyfriend very much and he's told me the same. But sometimes I get the feeling he doesn't like what we have. He has a friend he always sees and they've known each other for a long time.He's openly told me he used to have feelings for her. She recently broke up with her boyfriend and her mom called him to help her. A friendly gesture but she had called him before that crying to him that she should've been with him this whole time.He took her out to get her mind off of the break up which is well and great but they really just went out on a date. I met her not that long ago and I saw the way she looked at him, at me and at us. He took her out for her birthday and told me, saying they were with her family. I find out later it was just the two of them.I'm two years younger than he is and I know there are so many other women out there, his age, that are so much better than I am. He says I make him happy but I know one day his friend will take my spot in his heart, I can already see it.Am I just overthinking this or is there honestly something to be worried about? I'm really confused and I don't want to get hurt.
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reader, emb169  +, writes (26 May 2011):
Older boys can often spell trouble I'm afraid, and their female friends mean that you have a breeding ground for your paranoia. I think before you jump to conclusions you should talk to him about it and ask him to be honest with you. Ask him why he feels it is necessary for him to cover up the fact that they are alone together if there is nothing going on. I know its not what you want to hear, but it sounds dodgy to me. This girl sounds like she wants to be with him. And these unresolved feelings he had don't sound good either. I have a boyfriend 3 years older than me and I constantly worry about women his age being better for him than me. But you have to think about your good points and not about these imaginary women. You are not inferior. Talk to him about it, and make it clear that you don not want to get hurt. If he really cares about you, he will tell you the truth, even if the news is bad, at least he has told you, you can be friends and move on.
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