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writes: Hi everyone, my bf and I have recently got engaged. Its been a tough yr for both of us and we're happy.However, my partner has accepted a new job working for the same company as his ex of 7yrs. Now he's saying how weird it is bumping into her and how he thinks he's ok? She works on a different floor but obviously they're going to bump into each other. They broke up 4yrs ago and he doesn't think she quite got over him. Should i be worried! Please help asap!
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Well it's all relative. Does your man have a cheating history? They did date for 7 years, and everyone has their little slip-ups... personally I would ask him stright out if there is a chance it may happen. Also tell him that you're worried about it, and he should consider searching for a different job. Did she refer him to this job? did he know she worked there when he accepted it? Did he have multiple job options? These are also helpful signs to clue you in on his intentions. He may want to show her he's moved on now that he's engaged.
It difficult to ask him to give a job he's just started especialy if its a good paying, successful job. It may not be able to happen, he may love his job and wnt to stay, but that doesn't mean he doesnt love you. Just make sure you set your boundries, tell him it would upset you if you found out they went for a chat or some drinks... I hope all things work out, it's a tough situation for you but be strong
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reader, jennieleeds +, writes (26 October 2006):
Hi No i wouldnt be worried about it at all, you and your BF are happy as you say and you have just got engaged. If your BF wanted to be unfaithful he could be, with an ex or some other, but he chooses not to because he is with you! I am still friends with my exboyfriend, we broke up because we didnt want the same things, not because we didnt get on. His girlfriend is not impressed with the whole thing and reckons on to trust him, just not me! But if you trust him it shouldnt matter if his ex throws herself at him he should be able to say no. Please dont be paranoid about it, your BF will really appreciate your trust and support on the issue and in the end it will make your relationship stronger!
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