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writes: I found texts on my husband's phone from a woman I don't know arranging for them to meet up. I asked who she was and was told "She's no one". He has since deleted these texts. I am worried something is going on. Should I be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): I know this was put up over a year ago. but i also know that people read and search for advice. You should be concerned enough to ask. but dont approach in an uncomfortable way. do it leisurley. like "hey babe, who you textin?" im a male too if this helps. i have women text me sometimes but typically its work related since i work with an even amount of men n women. the reason i say dont do it harshly is because it will make him start erasing them. whether it be harmelss or harmfull, he will erase them out of fear of nagging or fear of just getting caught. i know thats what i did. i was scarred that every time i got a harmless text i would get drilled. rather then her being understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): i have been married for over 15 years i found texs on his phone,from alady saying when we going fishing and why dont you pick your phone up on his ansering messages.he said my freinds used my phone they had no creid and the texs were his.i didnt no weather to beleive him. then one night he came home 5,0clock in the morning i asked were have you been i have been ringing you why didnt you pick up he said my batterey was dead,and slept at his work mates.then another 2 days after he again came home in the early hours of the morning he said the same again. he does not talk to me and the children or take them out. i dont now why hes doing this we have never been for s walk together just around the block or to the park with the kids please help me with my question he so sercetive too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006):
I have had my current cell phone for over 6 months and I still get crazy (well they probably made sense to someone) texts and this weekend a voicemail from a woman.
There is definitly a holdover period where you will get stuff for the previous owner of the phone number.
I have a second phone line at home for 2 years and I still get people looking for "Maria".
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): well i have to give u answer here a few weeks back i found texs in my husbands phone whwn i asked who she was he said no one and i got really angrey about this he kept saying he dont no who even sent him them texs now he liveing with her so if i were u id kick up a stink and get answers now and dont wait look at me still heart broken i dont think il ever get over this i praying for u and hope it works out better for u than it did for me good luck
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reader, laura_18 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 It depends what the text said i would'nt worry at first.Don't get mad about it because you could be wrong maybe it's someone from work maybe an old friend. The best thing to do is ask him you can always tell if a man is feeling guilty.Love laura_18
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): I meant to say NOT sufficient. Why do men believe it is?
You want reassurance and you didn't get it. And even then; you don't trust him and have perfect cause to not trust in him as no other Woman should be meeting up with YOUR MAN.
Husband is your Man and only your Man and he should know this.
I am sure he would freak if he saw another man texting you to meet up with you and you respond, oh..he's no one.
give me a break.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Well she is someone as no one is able to text; someone is.
Tell him that "no one" is sufficient and that a very important someone wants to know; you.
Tell him he needs to tell you if things are not working for him in the both of yours marriage as on your side of things...you may not be feeling the same way.
It takes one stray thought to undo the two of you hardwork, commitment, and love.
Time for intervention; seek a couples counsellor.
Best Wishes.
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