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female
age
41-50,
*abyg4269
writes:I am a 31 yr old mother to 4 wonderful little boys..I recently got divorced after 2 yrs of seperation from my childrens father. I am getting remarried next month (August 2011) to a man who loves me very much. Ok here goes..even though I know that my fiancee loves me I am very insecure about his friends..most of them are women who flirt way to much and often go way beyond innocent. My fiancee knows that it bothers me but does not discourage their behavior and he flirts back (there are times that I dont think he realizes how flirty he is being). He lied to me about a former fling when we first got together and he no longer talks to her. But he talks about two specific women all the time, should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): He had a fling when you first got together? What, why are you still with this guy? Well, if he had a fling when he was with you, then yes, I think you should be concerned. Men and women flirt, but there's a boundary to be respected. The flirting should not have a 'sexual' vibe, (unless you're both available). And, pretty much any flirtations that are not of a sexual nature should be avoided when one's partner is right there. ... Just my opinion.
I was at my bf's work party, and one of his attractive female coworkers was teasing him. She wasn't trying to be 'sexual' or anything, but he was clearly smitten with her. It was unpleasant for me to watch, and very rude of that woman to tease him because she knew she had a power over him. He just melted into her gaze. My bf didn't even want me to exist in that moment, or at least that's how I felt. Did he give a care or concern about me? No, he did not. It was all about him.
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