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writes: I have been living with my boyfriend for six monthes. He asked me to look for something in his personal things. I found pictures and letters from his ex girlfriends. Do I have the right to be upset?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2006): oh, you have a right to be upset, but, to help calm you down, it's not that big a deal. people keep stuff like that - it doesn't mean anything.you should definitely NOT burn them or destroy them or anything - you're right - that would be psycho, and just wrong.if they really bother you, talk to your boyfriend about it. my guess is he never worried about it, thinking they were safely tucked out of sight. as long as you make it clear that it's not an attack or an accusation, and just something you want to talk about, there's a good chance talking will make you feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): You're welcome. 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): you have the right to get upset, but everyone here is right. they are just memories and nothing, but. dont worry so much.
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reader, agonyqueen +, writes (13 May 2006):
agonyqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo far everyone who's answered has made me feel so much better. I understand that he's got a past, but I feel like sometimes thats what is holding him back from moving ahead with me. But I do feel significantly better. Ive stopped having the pity cries.
Thank you everyone:)
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reader, bonym  +, writes (13 May 2006):
 Yes you do have the right to be upset my dear, however they were from his EX. You are the NOW not the past and the girl from the past ought to stay in the past and whatever photos and letters he had, they are now his story. Yes, she is history, you are his girl now and whatever went on in the past stays there. You have to understand that at one point they were an item so it is inevitable that he may retain some belongings, but as I said, its the past. All the best. xXx
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reader, agonyqueen +, writes (12 May 2006):
agonyqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Martini. Thats what I thought too, that there memories and he doesnt leave them laying around.All my close friends have just been giving me negative advice all day.One told me to burn them. Wouldn't that be more than a lil psycho? But thank you. I feel so much better after you confirmed my initial response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): Sure you do. I am sure if my girlfriend found stuff from my ex, she would be upset too. However, you should think that those stuffs are memories that were good to us at one point in our lives. You may feel that there is no point, but to us, there is. I don't want to get into details, because it would be like a showdown of anti-porn versus pro-porn advocates.
However, don't worry about it. Really. It's not like he displays them or anything. I hide mine in sealed boxes, and put them under the bed where they collect dust.
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