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writes:Well, to start off, I used to like this one guy, who I'm now attending college with. Long story short: I had strong feelings for him, but never told him. I'm pretty sure that he'd gotten the hint though, but just didn't feel the same.Anyway, back to the problem. Three good friends of mine texted me, saying that they were at the college, having a conversation with him. When I wrote back, they told me that he was asking about me. I let myself get all excited, thinking that maybe he'd actually taken interest. I even begged them to tell me if it was a lie, because I didn't want to get my hopes up (They denied that it wasn't true). But an hour later, one of these friends walks up to me laughing, saying that it was all a lie, to be funny.Do I have a right to be sad about this? I don't want to tell them that it's hurt me, because I don't want to stir up trouble. Also, how can I get this guy out of my head? It's been a while, and I don't know why I still wish he'd care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): I think Tennisstar has hit the nail on the head - you owe it to yourself to make sure the guy got the 'hint'. Communicate directly with him. The risk of a 'no thanks' is better than always wondering 'what if' about this. Either you'll have an actual date with him or you mind will be free to consider other guys.
As for your friends, that was an unkind immature thing they did. You should tell them how you felt because of their actions. Good friends need to be able to trust each other, and if they don't see that they made a mistake then they aren't worth your time and energy.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Sounds like you need new friends. Your friends knew how much you liked him, driving your hopes up then it's a joke. A not very funny one at that. Just let them know that was a very bitchy thing for them to do, it wasn't very funny, then proceed to ignore them until they can give you a sincere apology.
As far as the guy goes, sometimes you have to spell it out to guys that you like them...they just aren't they observant. Ask him out to coffee, or if he wants to study with you in the library. Then get to talking to him, possibly ask him out to a movie one night. If he says no then you have your answer..and can then proceed to move on to other guys in college. School is full of them it's hard just to pick one.
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