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writes:Do i have the right to be upset that my boyfriend was talking about his class and said "I got the lucky pick of the cutest girl to work with" He knows i have jealousy and trust issues cuz all my past bf's have cheated on me, he even cheated on me in the 1st month of are relationship it was just a kiss but still. We have been togather for a year so should him saying that make me upset still? Or should i just forget about it and act like it dint bother me? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): It should make you upset and you should leave him. I know you've been with him along time and you love him, but he's probably going to cheat on you again.
Is he around your age also? Even the nicest most caring and big hearted people cheat. In my 20s, my bf and I cheated on each other multiple times. Neither of us have ever admitted it to this day, but it's obvious.
A comment about another girl, such a knife to the heart. That's the type of thing that happens though, when you try to take on love at such a young age. Love is a very powerful force that is almost always too much for someone your age.
People below the age of 25 have it rough trying to love someone. You don't truly know yourself yet, you don't know what you really want out of life or a life partner. You don't know what goodness you deserve and how to get it.
Hormones are still pumpin and you don't really take on relationships with the utmost maturity. It gets easier when you're older, but in the meantime.... just know that guys and girls mixin and matchin is a never ending process at your age. I wish you luck. You'll be better off with someone who can respect you more, but finding that in a 20something guy is tough.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Well in relationships it is healthy to talk to each other about things like this. the more open he is the better. However if he knows that you have issues dealing with trust and self asteem then he shouldnt really rub it in. Tell him how it made you feel. But remember he is yours. It is ok for him to look as long as he doesnt touch. Goodluck.
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reader, lif3sucks +, writes (10 February 2011):
 this is kinda ironec cuz the same thing happend to me just not in a class or anything my bf cheated on me in the first couple months of our relationship by texting a girl for nacked pics. and he to knows that i have jealousy and trust issues and he will always crack jokes about hot girls and stuff so what i do is ignor him and he will just stop (for the time being) cuz he knows it gets to me, but if you ever hear or find out that he cheated again thats when you stop ignoring and step up to him, you can let him not that it really bothers you and that you dont like it and you wished he would stop. hope this helps good luck!
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