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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So been friends with this guy for like a year and a half and he satyed round a few times i see him like twice a week ( he leaves 45min away from me and he always comes see me) and i know most of him mates and he knows some of mine we'r quite close i guys. So i had a house party and weeks before that he keeped saying he was gonna sleep in my bed with me but thats fine coz i sleep in the same bed 3 time before and nothing ever happened appart from cuddles.. but this time well as u can guess we had sex.. really good sex. it started as nothing , just cuddling and stuff and he kept messing around with my clothes and then we were face to face ( well i was on top of him coz we were pretty much wrestling hah) and we kissed i dunno who kissed who but tbh doesnt matter coz we both kissed each other back then after that we had sex. then feel asleep and cuddle till we woke up, i had to wake up before him coz i had to check on my house and my mates ( house parties can get messy) and then went back to bed and he took me and cuddles me more.. then like 1 hour later him and his mates that stayed round had to go coz they were going to Vfest for the weekend. so thats pretty much it and no it wasnt drunken sex we were both sobber so my question is should i be scared that our frienship will be awkward or goone? i would die if i cant be friends with him anymore i care about him so much and im really scared, when were were in bed i kept asking him why he was doing that and he was like im not doing any thing and kept smillingthe whole time.. when he gets back from vfest im gonna try and see him but i just dnt want it to be awkward i know it might not be but im just scared . WHAT SHOULD I DO? WHAT SHOULD I SAY AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN... im so confused and i dnt want to be i dnt wanna lose him, i love him to bits i dnt wanna lose him
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): I, too, had a similar situation happen just about a year ago. The best thing is to acknowledge what happened and ask him what he thought about it. Dont wait for him to address it and dont pretend like nothing happened - because it did.
Be courageous and find out what he wants from the relationship. Maybe this was his way of determining whether he wants more from you? What do you have to lose? If you avoid him or make things awkward you are out a friend, if you find his response unsettling you are out a friend, but if it was mutually enjoyable and he wants more you have everything to gain.
Goodluck and I hope things turn out for the better.
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