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writes:Hi,I was in a very strange situation tonight. I was just out for some leaving dinner and drinks for a friend who is emigrating.. There was a few of us, we went to a bar after dinner, i got talking 'having banter' with a guy at the bar, and later someone else chatted to me on the dance floor, just having fun in my group of friends, i all of a sudden just got knocked down onto my butt, some guy (the guy i had chatted to at the bar) had gone for the guy who was chatting to me on the dance floor, completely tried to take him out. It got sorted by the bouncers very quick, but I was really shaken by it. It has scared me from talking to guys in a bar.. or made me highly anxious/ worried about who is it out there talking to you?? I guess I feel a little bit disturbed by the violence "I caused" dont know these people from nowhere and dont wish to, was just having a giggle.. what the hell?? its almost put me off of being in alcohol fuelled sitations, this isnt the first time i've come across aggressiveness and I really dont like it :(
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reader, rosycheeks +, writes (9 September 2012):
rosycheeks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, for all your input. I had asked the guy if he knew the other one, he said no, he asked me the same thing. I think its a good tip to not talk too much about where you live and jobs, sometimes I do that. You just don't know who you can meet! I guess you can't eliminate these things happening, it was just a bit of a shock to get caught up in it.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 Here's what I would do. Always go with a group of your friends. And never have more than one drink. You can drink heavily back at home, but when you're out you need to have your wits about you, be aware of your surroundings, be aware of the vibe of the bar and what's going on around you and who close by. You can still talk to a strange guy, but make sure you don't leave your drink unattended without your friends watching when you go to the bathroom or whatever; You don't want anyone slipping something into your drink. Never, ever go home with a guy you barely know. Never ever tell a guy where you live or where your work. Never ever leave the bar alone. You came with your friends, you must leave with your friends. And if the bar feels "weird" if you get the feeling there's a weird vibe or there's weird people there, leave. Never stay and hang out in a place when your intuition is screaming at you to get out. Be tuned into your gut at all times. Good luck.
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Maybe he already knew the guy and they had a problem with each other already.
There is violence out there unfortunately, you just have to learn to accept it. I know it sounds like a bad answer but you do, you can't live life scared of violence because its basic human nature, people get violent. Simple.
Maybe just take it easy when you go out to ensure if your ever caught up in the middle like that again you can get away and get home safely.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (8 September 2012):
 None of this was your fault, unfortunately there are a lot of idiots out there, on this occasion you got caught up in it, don't let it affect you too much, make sure your with a group of friends when you go out so you feel safer
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