A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So I have recovered from a bad break up I had earlier this year. My ex cheated on me with one of my best friends because he just KNEW the 3 of us would be a happy polyamorous family even though I told him I wasn't down for it anymore. So instead he kept this other relationship a secret from me for about a year and got caught and never came clean. (-sorry had to spell out why he's a dbag). So anywho once upon a time my ex and I, the ex best friend and her bf, we all 4 hooked up. I guess thats when my ex and ex friend decided to hook up. Since the break up I have healed and have begun moving on with my friend, who is also my ex friends ex (who she cheated on to be with my ex). It still feels a little weird thinking of us as a couple and acknowledging that both couples have switched. I have not been with a lot of people in my life and have enjoyed my time being single for the first time ever this year. Should I be moving away from people I know and trying to find someone new or enjoy what I have and live one day at a time?
View related questions:
best friend, cheated on me, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2012):
 It sounds all rather "inbreed" - as in.. everyone has been dating everyone's exes.
What are you doing with your life? Are you in college? Work?
Can you afford to move? Do you WANT to move ?
Stay single enjoy life and figure out your goals for the future and then go for them. Don't let other people dictate where you live and what you do :)
A
female
reader, natasia  +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Hmm. Part of me thinks that if it has crossed your mind that it might be better just to cut with the whole group, then perhaps that is what you should do. Being with this ex boyfriend of your ex friend will only remind you of the past, I think. It might feel somehow comforting, but I think it might not be the right thing.
Put it this way: if you had the choice of this guy, or a really amazing non-related new stranger guy, which would you choose?
...............................
|
