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writes:The man I'm dating likes to go out together when he has time and he likes to communicate but he doesn't say to me about a serious relationship. He has told me that he doesn't want a commitment and he just wants to have good time. Although I am looking for someone that would be committed I have accepted to see this man because I have a great time when I am with him. Sometimes we go vacations together but all are without something serious in mind. He has understood that I am looking something more serious and sometimes he arranges to go out with his friends or he says to me to go out with my friends. I understood that he wants me to go out with one of his friend and to arrange him to go out with a friend of mine. Is he talking serious or he wants to see my response to all of them that he proposes? I can't really see what he really means and what he wants? I want to add that I have feelings for this man and so it's difficult to go out with a friend of his or to arrange for him to meet my friends. So we can't be really friends as he says that we mostly are. Should I be more open minded and not show him that I'm jealous and interested or should I show him that I don't accept all of them? I like this man and I don't want to lose him but of course I want to be his priority and to be his girlfriend and not just his friend. How should I cope with all this matter with his friend? Should I show interest or should I walk away? I don't really like his friends but sometimes we speak because I want to be a part of my friend's cycle of friends.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hi, I will be the next one to say to you, that this is a waste of your time. he is openly showing you what he wants between the two of you, and that is basically a casual friendship, if that. He is not boyfriend material. Fish and birds can not hang out together. Listen and be good to yourself. There are so many other men out there who want to benefit from your goodness. Please stop trying to make something work, which is sdmittedly hopeless. Take your warmth and charm and find someone who will appreciate them. Listen to this chorus of people who see this, as going nowhere. Be good to yourself, and respect yourself, you deserve better. Let him alone, now. Take care, stay in touch.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hello, Sorry to say walk away. I read moongoddess and she is correct. This may go on for a long time with this man and you will hope and hope and hope.....but he won't committ. I don't like all this friend sharing and games either. Have fun with him if you can but I "know" he won't ever give you that committment. Sorry!! xxxx
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