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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes: I was seeing a guy as friends with benefits, within 7 months he fell in love with me and I hurt him. We got over it and he decided to move away to be closer to his family. I supported this and supported him meeting new people over the internet so he wasnt alone when he left but then I enjoyed him talking about them to me on his return from visits to his new area because none of them really were a patch on me from what he said to me. Anyway cut a long messy story short after about 18 months I fell deeply in love with him and then he left but we were going to stay together. Just before he left I became terribly insecure and drove him away once he had moved. We split up over a year ago and I am still suffering bouts of depression from it even though I spent 10 months on anti depressants and thought it was dealt with. I met another guy 4 months after we had split it is a very long distance relationship which I thought would be good because of my delicate state. He treats me like a queen and would do anything for me,so why cant I love him ? He would be a great husband and father and I want to settle down as am in late 30's now. However he is a loner, and does not have many friends and I am a real social bunny. On so many levels its wrong but so was my previous relationship and I fell in love eventually. Should I be hanging in here to fall in love again or not. Please help it is making me ill trying to decide what to do.
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reader, Blahblahblah82 +, writes (7 March 2010):
Well if you reLly like the guy then go out with him settle in with him how to two socialise with other people is a minor difference and hey you never know he might become really good friends with somenof your friends you never know so yes forget the first guy start a new with this other guy
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