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male
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41-50,
*oul83
writes:In order to spice up our sex lives, my partner and I have been imagining others occasionally. It turns her on to hear me imagine she's another girl. Likewise, she is turned on by imagining other guys.Whilst it has worked a couple of times for me to imagine other girls, I've found it more satisfying to imagine it's my partner. Is that unusual? I don't want to imagine others.A guy at the club a few days ago was apparently very handsome. So he became the guy that she thought about. Actually I've started to find it harder to think about providing her pleasure while she is thinking of other guys.It's true that she loves me and she shows it. But it sometimes bothers me that she is relying on the thoughts of other guys. I should note that at least she asks me and tries to set the scene first.Actually I can think of a couple of times recently where I suggested others and she insisted that she was happy to be just thinking of me.We are engaged but this point is really annoying me and making me worry about the future. I know variety in the bedroom is a good thing but I want to connect with her and not be reduced to 'someone else'.One more thing, she does kiss and hug me when we are done - she tells me she loves me.I'm just very conservative and traditional. And possibly insecure by worrying about her getting excited by other guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): i guess it is normal. guys do it all the time, girls usually dont, but if guys can do it and it be harmless, im assuming the same when a girl does it also
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