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writes:ok so heres what the problem is, my girlfriend has alot of guy friends which I'm ok with, i do get a little jealous when shes with them but I trust her. The only one i have trouble with is one of her ex boyfriends who she still talks to. The reason it worries me is hes a player type of guy, he goes to parties alot, and hes in good shape. Him and my girlfriend only went out for about a month she said and it ended because she couldnt put up with him and his ex's that wanted him back. He has a girlfriend at the moment but it worries me because i think he may still have feelings for my girlfriend. I dont know if its just my jealousy trying to keep my girlfriend or if i actually am right. I know my girlfriend wouldnt do anything, we made a promise if we ever were gonna do something disloyal we would leave the other person. I trust her but it still bothers me when she talks to him, they dont text alot but they do text some, and talk on facebook some times. So is this a natural feeling or am i being too peranoid, and should i be worried about her and him, and ask her to stop? any advice would be nice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): You need to talk to her, I personally would feel the same so don't think you are being silly by having these thoughts. Just one thing, you may have promised each other that you will never be disloyal to each other but come on, if either of you are going to cheat then it will happen...I speak from experience, I recently split with my husband and we promised each other that we would never cheat on each other, I believed him and trusted him comppletely only for 7 years down the line for him to go behind my back with my friend, why did I believe him? Because his ex had cheated on him so I didn't think he would cause me that pain but he did and the truth is anyone is capable...you never really know anyone. I am sorry to be so blunt but it's the truth. Now I think you have every right to be worried about your gf spending time with her ex and texting him etc, it isn't normal and I personally think you should talk to her about it. That's the mistake I made, I let my husband get too close to my friend and I knew something wasn't right but was too scared to confront him about it...I will not make that same mistake again I can assure you of that. So please talk to her. Good luck :)
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