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writes:I want to throw a surprise birthday weekend for my boyfriend, but the problem is that all of his friends are male. Some of his friends are married, but the wives will not be able to come because of small children they have to look after (his friends are coming from out of town). I know he enjoys the company of his guy friends to do "guy" stuff like sports, etc. So my question is whether it is appropriate for me to be there as well if I may be the only female there. I have to be there somewhat in order to get him to the initial surprise dinner, but then for the rest of the weekend, should I disappear and let him be alone with his friends? I don't want his guy friends to be annoyed that a girl is hanging out with them when maybe they want alone guy time with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I don't think you should really be there. Maybe for a few minutes at the beginning and at the end, but if he doesnt ask you to stay, I think it would be best if you left them to it. If you stay, you might start feeling a bit left out, as the guys will more than likely just fancy a bit of 'guy-time'. So give him some space with the guys. But when you go, kiss him long and hard and tell him you'll be seeing him later!
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 If you don't mind, and can arrange other plans for yourself, you could stick around a bit and then go. I think it would be a nice gesture to your boyfriend giving him some "guy time" especially seeing as how his friends are coming from out of town and he probably doesn't get to see them all that often. If you WANT to stick around, I don't see a huge problem with that either, after all, you're the one planning the whole thing. Do what you feel.
-Jmo
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 well hun i think you shoudnt be there with the guys like the whole time..let him have his boys night out!!!just be there for a while,set the cake,dinner and everything..wish him happy birthday let him cut his cake and give him a deep kiss in a way he should lust for more lol..and then say good bye..your work is done..
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