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writes:I want to keep in touch with my freshman algebra teacher who retired in 2009 and he's kind of shy and likes his privacy.When I asked one of his friends who still works at my school if she could ask him if I could contact him (this was when I was a sophomore) he said through her "There's an unwritten rule that teachers aren't allowed to contact students outside of school." But he did say to her to tell me "Tell Justine I miss her and that it's good to know a student cares about me."He's moving permanently down to Florida sometime this year and I'll be graduating high school this June. I also wrote my college essay about him being influential to me.My question is: should I even bother to ask to stay in contact with him once I graduate and if so, when and how should I ask? I don't know if/when I'll see him again, so should I ask his friend to ask him for me? Should I risk it and call him myself after graduation?He does NOT have a Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, etc. He does email though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): The thing I forgot to put is he said "there's an unwritten rule" back when I was a sophomore in October 2009--more than two years ago.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 February 2012):
 Keep him as a great memory and let it go sweetie..
he's retiring to florida you are just beginning your life...
I graduated high school in 1978 and I have GREAT memories of my 11th grade english teacher who probably is still teaching somewhere...as he was only a few years older than myself.
keeping them just memories is the best way to go.
take all the good things he gave you while being your teacher and keep them as memories.... use them to become a great person as you grow and mature... then when you are old like us you will have good warm memories...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): It's great that he's been influential and great to know that someone appreciates teachers!!!I think he's made it clear that though he enjoyed teaching you he wouldn't want to keep in touch on a personal level.Better to find yourself someone your own age. Put yourself in his place: do you think he'd want to get himself a reputation as hanging out with someone your age? What would that sound like?
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reader, Der Freischutz  +, writes (18 February 2012):
I think that if he said that through your other teacher, maybe he's saying it's not a good idea. If he was open to staying in touch, he probably wouldn't have said anything about an 'unwritten rule'.
I'm quite friendly with some of my teachers too, and they've either added me on Facebook or told me they'd do that after I graduate.
If your only way to contact this teacher is through your other teacher, and you've received that response, I'd say it's not worth pursuing. If you know where he lives or you know his email, you could try sending him a letter or email directly. Then you'd know for sure.
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