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writes:Okay I have a few questions. The Sadie Hawkins Dance is soon. I have a boyfriend of 1 month, I should probably ask him correct?If I don't ask him, what do you think that would mean?If I do ask him would I have to dance with him the entire time?Wouldn't it get awkward if I didn't want to dance with him anymore? You know? someone just explain some of this stuff to me haha Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankful so much for your helpful advice:) It turns out that he's not going to be able to go so now I just have to figure out if it would still be worth It for me to go haha thanks so much though!!!
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (12 January 2011):
If you ask him: By asking him, you've made the night about you two. Kind of count it as a date night and treat him with high priority, as he'd probably do the same with you. Spend your time with him; dance together, get food/drinks together, etc. You can by all means still talk and dance with your friends, but its important to make sure he doesn't feel left out or look bored. If you get sick of dancing with just him alone, drift towards a group of friends and dance with all of them. Your boyfriend can feel free to join in on the group fun or not at all. Either way, make sure you're both having a good time.
If you don't ask him: Well that may come across as weird to him, so make sure you talk it over with him first. Do you have a group of just girls that are going without dates as well? If so, you should explain to him that as much as you'd like to go with him, you made arrangements to just make it a "girls night." If everyone else has dates and you go alone, he'll probably get a bad message from it.
If you don't go at all: If he's expecting you to ask him, tell him you just don't feel like going. If he seems down about it, say that you two can use the night to have some free time together.
The choice is completely up to you. There's really no "wrong" answer. But no matter which you choose, make your decision delicately and keep his feelings in mind. You don't want this to turn into a bad night for either of you.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Lovelessact1:
Thankyou for your reply it made a lot of sense. I suppose I should clarrify a few things though. My choices are to:
1. go and ask him
2. go and not ask him
3. not go at all
I do not plan on asking another guy at all. I guess what I meant was, what do you think it would mean if I went to the dance but I just didn't ask him. I wouldn't ask anyone else, but if I just didn't ask him.
Also, no I do NOT want to dance with other guys. I don't want him dancing with other girls, so I understand that I shouldn't be dancing with other guys. I meant awkward if I just like didn't want to dance with him anymore and just wanted to dance with my friends or something... we're talking like grinding here lol
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (11 January 2011):
1. I should probably ask him correct?If you are planning on going, then yes. Asking someone else wouldn't be a nice thing to do. If you aren't planning on going, simply tell him you don't feel like it and make arrangements to spend the evening together instead.2. If I don't ask him, what do you think that would mean?Once again, it depends on if you're planning on going. If you don't ask him, but weren't going to the dance anyways then no harm done. If you asked another guy to the dance that would show him you don't care for his company that much and would rather spend time with someone else. It'd be a bad idea, so I recommend not doing that.3. If I do ask him would I have to dance with him the entire time?Dance as much as you want to dance. If he suggests doing something else and you don't want to leave, tell him you're going to dance for a little more but will find him in a bit. I still advise spending as much time together as you can. If you've only been dating for a month I'm sure there is still a lot to get to know about each other. Think of it as a date night; make it about each other.4. Wouldn't it get awkward if I didn't want to dance with him anymore?Does that mean you'd be wanting to dance with other guys? Once again, I'd advise against it. At the very least, you should spend your time with your date, but if you see a guy friend of yours you'd like to dance with, simply ask your boyfriend. No, you don't have to ask him permission to do anything, but it'd be courteous to his feelings. Make sure he's comfortable with you dancing with someone else before you do it. If it helps, just tell him its just for one song and that you'll be right back.Otherwise, just have fun. You're young. But keep his feelings in mind; you are dating him and you asked him to the dance. You want to ensure he has a good time as well.
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