A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, so I've been texting this girl for a few months now, we've been friends for about 2 years though. We only started texting at the end of summer as she broke up with her ex boyfriend.We got together a couple of weeks ago on a night out for the first time but she told me she doesn't have feelings for me to go into a relationship, and also thinks I'm too young, I'm 20, she's 22. However, she knows that I really like her and she did say she has some feelings for me.She's graduated from uni so we don't get to see each other that much but we text everyday.However, last night we were texting like normal where all of a sudden she just said "Have fun tonight, good night". So I went out and then texted her earlier on this evening like normal but she's still being pretty short with me. This hasn't happened before and I don't know why it is happening.I'm seeing her on Friday so was wondering if I should text her before then, or maybe ask if something is wrong? Or just keep acting normal?Cheers
View related questions:
broke up, her ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 December 2012):
Hi there. Perhaps she just likes her own space, to be by herself and just do her own thing.
It could be that what she said about not having the type of feelings towards you to go into a relationship, could be part of the reason she seems a bit reserved at the moment, towards you.
It might not be so much about the fact you are 2 years younger than her.
So probably for now, just see how it goes on Friday, and if you get along okay and have a nice time together.
The end of summer when you started seeing each other, is now about 4 months almost, isn't it?
So that is a fairly long time really, even though you are mainly just texting each other.
Also a part of the problem here, could be that as she is graduated from uni, and you don't see each other very often now, because of that.
So maybe, it has become a kind of long distance relationship, would that be right?
How far in time do you live from each other now?
Is it 30 minutes driving? Or, is it more like an hour or more driving distance?
So the only reason you are not seeing each other so much these days, is only because she is no longer at uni?
Well anyway, just see what happens on Friday, and take it from there.
For your own sake though, it would be a wise thing for you, to find out exactly where you stand now.
So once you know this, you can then move forward with your life, one way or the other - with her or without her.
Even though you probably don't want to ask her straight out, you DO need to know this, just the same.
Because you don't want to knock back other chances to go out with nice young ladies, if she doesn't want to be in a relationship.
So for this reason, you really do need to know one way or the other.
That is fair, surely.
|
