A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My former college prof and I are really good friends. I'm falling for him (I can't stop thinking about him) and I'm pretty sure he likes me back, but we're both painfully shy. We've been flirting back and forth a lot and have gone out a couple times for lunch and once gazed in each other's eyes for several seconds which felt odd and wonderful at the same time.I'm just going crazy for him at the moment...i miss him so much (I live several states away and won't be getting home until the summer). Before I left he said maybe the next time I'm home we can just meet at his house, which I would like; it really sounds like he's starting to open up more to me.I'm thinking of asking him if he wants to come visit me for a few days either during his school's spring break or easter break. What do you think? I just want to see him again and spend some time with him. What would be some good ideas on how to hang out if he would come (please don't say sex cause I'm not gonna do that) but I want to cuddle with him and kiss him so bad! I'm in my mid-20s and he's around 50 and doesn't have a wife or girlfriend.- one prob - i live in an efficiency apt (the living and bedroom are the same room); I would give him my bed and I would sleep on the couch, but do you think that would kinda chase him away from visiting me? He seems to be a very mature man; not one that would use that opportunity to take advantage of me or something.
View related questions:
flirt, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): thanks so much indie-in-love! Your answer really helped me. One question I have though - you said don't bring him to my place for a few times, keep him waiting, etc. What do you mean by that? Have him stay at a hotel the first night until I see what his intentions are during the day? The ice skating idea is good - I'm a terrible skater so falling down would be no problem if we would do that :)
A
male
reader, indie-in-love  +, writes (22 January 2009):
Im not saying this is love but if it is or even if it feels remotely near then i say go for it.. get him to visit you during your break, because you may regret this for the rest of your life.
There is quite a tremendous age gap here but i am not here to judge in any way and maybe what you are looking for is a mature man.
As for ideas for hanging out maybe go to an ice rink and fall over a few times just to reassure you he is protective of you and that he cares for you when he tries to catch you when you fall or pull you to your feet or maybe catch a movie or even picnic at sunset to create an atmosphere.
I say dont bring him to your place for a few times.. keep him waiting and if he is continuous and persists being a good friend etc.. invite him into your apartment and just maybe drink a little wine and watch a romantic movie.. see where it lead.. maybe thats where your kissing and cuddling you asked for could end up?
anyway i hope my advice has helped in any way at all.. ost me a comment back if it did .. thankyou..
...............................
|
