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writes: Here goes...I have to give a little background with this so I am sorry if it is too long.I have known this guy since we were in highschool. Were really good friends through highschool and into college. Nothing romantic ever came about, but I always really liked him.Fast forward and after college, we lose touch. Both of us went into serious relationships and didn't talk to eachother for about five years. Just didn't know where eachother went.One day, I am on an online dating site and click on this random picture...it's him and he is now living about a half hour away from me and we even work in the same town. Anyway, I sent him an e-mail and he sent me one right back. We immediately talked on the phone about how much we missed eachother, and how glad we were to have eachother back in our lives.We get together that weekend. Hung out at my house and talked till four in the morning. We got to bed and end up having sex. We laid in bed all day the next day watching movies, making out and cuddling. We talk everyday the following week and he comes to my place again the next weekend. He has been at my house every weekend and through the week we talk everyday. When he is here, we continue to make out or have sex. We have made lots of plans of things we are going to do together for the next few months, including New Year's Eve. When we sit on the couch together, he puts his legs or his head on my lap...that's as far as public display's of affection go for us.My question is, do you think he likes me as more than just a friend, or is it just convenient for us to sleep together? Should I ask him about it, and how do I bring it up without freaking him out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): I think it is safe to say he likes you as more than a friend, the fact that you are not publicly dating is pretty common in the beginning of a new romantic relationship, and so are the insecure feelings that you are having about the relationship...the fact that he is making future plans with you is a very good sign. If the time is right and you feel comfortable you can always ask him what he thinks about your relationship or you can just play it cool for awhile if you think it is too soon to bring it up....you are the best judge of that, you can't always go into things just trying to protect yourself from getting hurt, in order to let love grow you have to lay yourself open and be vulnerable....just concentrate on taking care of his emotional needs by being a good friend, a good listener and demand respect from him and you will be doing the best that you can...if sex is starting to feel to convenient, just create some distance by giving him some space and seeing your friends or doing something on your own for a time.
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