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writes:hey,i need some advice,i like this girl we have been friends since last year, but we have not met up since last year how should i go about asking her out on a date or just as friends???please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I'd say at first just as friends just say "hey how're you haven't seen you for ages want to go into..... (wherever)". Just start to talk to her and get to know her, and take it from there. Start to see her more often and really get to know her well. Then you can ask her out on a date. Good luck and merry St. Patricks Day!
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Just as friends would be fine, since it's been a while since yall have seen each other.
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reader, maverick +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hello there mate,
Firstly don't ask her out. "Invite" her out...
"Do want to go to the cafe?" Is either going to get a yes or a no. The no is scary part. If she says no, then well its a form of rejeaction as she doens't want to spend time with you or at you location.
"I'm going to the cafe to relax for a bit. Would you like to join me?" is better as it removes all the pressure. You're in control, and you've given her a bail out PLUS even if she says no - you're alright, as you will head to the cafe anyway and relax.
The first question gets her to place judgement on a number of things, it also makes her nervous as if she say no - she will feel bad about screwing up your plans. With the second question, she's not underpressure. You also make yourself look like an outgoing friendly guy. If she says no, she's just opted out of going to the cafe - she can't reject you because that's not what you made out in the question?
Oh and don't end it with "It's alright if you say no or if you are busy" - just say what you need to say.
Secondly, don't as her out as a friend or as a date. You don't need to define anything. And if you do it now you might regret it later. Say friend and it will become harder to have her as a girlfriend, say date and she can feel threatened.
Third, kust keep it all light-hearted and don't get nervous. Keep the day out short, cheap and simple for the first time. And make sure it's one-to-one, never amongst other friends.
If it was me I would say hello and do a few minutes of cath up and then say something like]
"Hey there, it's (me). I know it's been a while but I saw a rainbow/monkey/something and thought of you. I'm heading out to the park on (this day), and wondered if you wanted to join me?"
"How come your going to the park?"
"Just to relax a bit, haven't skipped stones over the lake in ages so wanted to do i again. You can be my challenger?"
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Good luck mate.
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