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writes:I'm an 18 year old guy and I have a crush on my female friend who is 20. People who have seen us together have told me that we would make a cute couple. I was hanging out with her and a 3 other close mutual friends when her best friend said it to our faces. She replied by saying 'no thanks, no offence' and i told her i didn't want to be with her either anyways, of course, lying. I know that she's ancy about the age difference also and she probably has other reasons for saying that which i don't know.I guess my question is, do you think i should approach her about my feelings, which could possibly ruin our friendship, or should i leave it alone. if you think i should approach her, what would be the best way to go about it?
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 Even if you guys go to different universities and are in different cities, there is nothing wrong about letting a girl you like know your feelings.
It's not like you are pressuring her to give you an answer or get into a long distance relationship with you right now. You just want to plant that idea in her head that you feel a certain way about her.
If she feels the same way, that idea may grow in her head into something that you will benefit from in the future when both of you are ready.
If not, then you will not regret that you did absolutely nothing about someone you had feelings for. If it's not meant to be it will not happen, but at least you are honest with yourself and the other person. There is nothing wrong in being honest. It makes life easier.
I always yell at my guy friends when they do nothing about their feelings for girls they like. And then they wonder, what would have happened if...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Does she seem interested in you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe last two answers were helpful. Something i forgot to mention is that i just started university. neither of us are staying in our home city (same one) and we're both going to different universities.
also, i dont have many close friends and if i say something im afraid id lose her as a friend especially since something like that happened to me a few years ago and my friendship with that friend has changed completely. i dont want that to happen again to this friend.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (28 August 2010):
At night when saying good bye When you two are alone,(or if you are not alone whisper that in her ear:
"I know you don't think we would make a good couple, but you should know that I think we would."
Say goodnight, kiss her on the cheek and walk away. DO NOT wait for a reply. Just walk away.
That's all you need to say, your words will be stuck in her head all night, if there is something there in her feelings for you, she will let you know.
But saying those words and letting her sleep and think about it will probably put you in a completely different light in her eyes (a positive one for you)
Good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Very good question. I dont know why the age would be a problem because its only two years. I think you should tell her how you feel. If you dont, then you'll probaly regret it and wonder what might have been. I suggest telling her when you two are alone, and comfortable. Make sure that when you tell her try not to make it awkard. Be confident in yourself. I wish you the best of luck!:]
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