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writes:I feel guilty because I was at this casual party/picnic at church last night and I was talking to my new friend about how I felt uneasy last year when I had no money and this specific group at church that collects items for the poor kept asking for things to bring. The leader of the group was near and my friend said the leader tried to listen to what I was saying once she heard the name of the church group come up from my mouth, but couldn't because I stopped talking and we left. But now the leader knows I was talking about the group and might think it was something bad. That group wasn't even the topic of what I was saying to my friend. I mentioned it as a part of the summary of things that made me feel uncomfortable when I had no money that's all. Should I speak to the group leader and clarify what happened or should I leave it like that? She wasn't supposed to be eavesdropping in the first place anyway.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 I would just ignore the situation unless the person asks you outright what you said - and they will if they are really keen to know or just plain nosy. Otherwise I wouldn't bring the subject up or justify myself in any way.
I myself am completely penniless at the moment and being forced into giving when you can hardly look after yourself is very hard. Don't worry about this any more. Just act normally around this person and don't feel awkward, don't raise the subject at all. You are obviously a nice person and do the best you can.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Yeah it was something bad, .. you were being pressured to give when you were not in the position to, and these charitable types never had it occur to them that you would have if you could have (discrediting your nature in the process) and to leave you alone rather than giving you a guilt trip.
I would not bother explaining myself if I was you. Your finances and choices are your business, not the churches. If people want to misconstrue things after evesdropping well that is their problem, not yours.
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