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writes:I’m 24 and I have a fantastic coworker in a neighboring cubicle that around my mom’s age. Recently, after sharing some laughs about some funny/“bad” dates I went on the weekend she suggested her son’s good friends and sent me a group photo. Her son stopped by to meet me at work and later on my coworker sent me a photo of one the girl whom I wasn’t particularly drawn to (the others were cute…).I’m flattered but this is all VERY new for me and I feel a little uncomfortable. Here’s why: I got a very thoughtful email from my coworker today inviting me to her family cottage for the day to meet this girl. It was carefully crafted to stress that she wasn’t looking to impose herself in our personal lives, that my reply would have no effect on our work relationship and that she never gets to know any of the students at work as they usually just come and go but that she likes me… In short, I don’t feel pressured.On one hand, I’m thinking of going because who knows. I’m not initially attracted or drawn to this girl but then again I’ve never met her. Maybe she’s just not photogenic. You only live once.On the other hand, it might be rude to lead her on (???) if I already don’t feel anything. It wouldn’t be nice to get her hopes up. This girl is interested in meeting me and my coworker suggested that I accept the invitation “if that’s the case for me too”.Any thoughts/suggestions?
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Go meet her. Maybe you'll hit it off, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll meet some new friends and have some fun. It's worth a shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): I would go meet her and see if you both have any chemistry. You only live once, try everything once, if you don't like her you don't have to continue the relationship, no heart feelings. I would go meet the girl difenitely, without a doubt.
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