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writes:I'm an openly bisexual girl and have a crush on a girl at work... and I could do with some advice. I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment anyway as i've been going through a pretty tough time so the most I want is a bit of fun perhaphs.We are complete opposites in every way and not the type of girl I ever normally would fancy- i'm quite shy and intoverted and she's very loud and extroverted. We hardly have anything in common and have had our fair share of heated arguments and disagreements. We sit directly opposite looking at each other all day at work.She's not only straight but also very homophobic, as often as she can she will voice how she thinks gayness is wrong, sick and discusting. Now obviously all this doesn't look very encouraging for a potential crush. The only thing is i feel that we have amazing chemistry and that infamous "spark." Now I know it's very easy to wrongly interpret things when you want something really bad but I'm pretty sure i'm right about this (the only other straight girl i felt this with DID turn out to fancy me.)Like our eye contact sizzles, theres that heat between us, body language signals it and despite of "not getting on" and kind of ignoring each other she will like not be able to control her smile sometimes if i talk to her or walk past her. She's even openly flirted before and asked stuff like why i didn't fancy her when i was winding her up about her not being my type.I honestly don't think i've felt such intense spark and chemistry with anyone ever before- it's intoxicating to say the least... yet other times i actually really dislike herSo i'm compleley confused:-She's very homophobic, can she really have feelings for me or am I imagining it?-How can I be so attracted to her yet dislike her at the same time?-Where do i go from here, we don't get on yet the attraction is so strong?
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 well as they say, there is a thin line between love and hate. so that explains why you can dislike her too I guess.
and there is a chance that she's just being nice and friendly when you two 'flirted' however, maybe she is actually bisexual or a lesbian and hasn't admitted it yet. A lot of time people who hate on homosexual people are actually homosexual themselves. My friend was exactly like that before he came out of the closet.
I don't know how you would ever accomplish getting her though,being as even if she is actually bi or gay that she's not ready yet to tell anybody, let alone be with anybody. But obviously, thats her call, not mine.
Good luck
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