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writes:I'm 16 and my best friend is 18. I really love her and she really loves me. About 6 months ago we started dating.. secretly through. She has a boy friend, oh by the way she's straight too and I'm bi. It was hard cuz I'm not out and she has a boyfriend and no one could know. We broke up a month later. We both hurt cuz we were both really really happy but About a week later we got back together and about another month late broke up that hurt even worse cuz every day we see each other and remember what was and we couldn't talk about it to anyone cuz it was secret. 3 days later got back together and stayed together for about 2 months. We were both super happy but things were getting hard cuz her mom found out and kinda teased her bout it cuz the whole time she is still with her boyfriend. Her mom would be supportive if she picked one but I dont know. So for a 3rd time we broke up. It hurt the most. We both did stupid things to ourselves.. but were still best friends and we both want the relationship back but she doesn't want to get hurt any more and if we get back together I want to stay together but she still has her boyfriend and I tell her I don't want her to just be my first I want her to be my forever. She's telling me to kinda move on, but we both don't want to. I really don't want to. She's the perfect girl, she's the girl of my dreams, she the one I want to spent the rest of my life with. I guess im trying to ask is if I should move on or keep trying, she said if she had to pick between her boyfriend os me she would pick me...I dont know what to do, and I could use some outsiders opinions. Thanks for your helpNibBlet
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): It seems she doesn't know what she wants, it also seems like she has already "kinda" told you that she wants you to move on.
She is probably as confused as you, if not more confused, if you were to move on, it would be a lot easier for her to stick with her boyfriend.
Have you tried to confront her? Tell her that, She Is It.
Maybe if she still wants to continue playing games then she isn't the one for you. At around her age, she should decide on a side, and stick with it.
It seems she is in love with you, but enjoys the fun with her boyfriend.
She needs to get her priorities straightened out, and if she can't decide, then find a girl who can, no matter how bad that may hurt to do.
I know that is probably not the answer you want to hear, but i hope it helps out somewhat.
I hope she chooses you over her boyfriend.
You seem like a good hearted person. :-)
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