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anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years and 7 months now. She's left me about 7 times to date other guys, but for some reason I always took her back. Now I'm in another situation. I looked through her phone I know it's wrong but I wanted to know what was going on. I read texts from 2 other guys. One which she was "talking" to a while back and the other whom she works with. She tells them almost the same things she tells, i'm sure. I had broken up with her a few weeks back. I tried to stay away but she kept showing up at my door and calling my phone. We met up later that week. She spilled her feelings for me and begged for another chance, the fool that I am I gave it to her. She agreed to tell those guys that she couldnt talk to them anymore and I deleted them from her phone. And just today I looked through her phone again (I know I know I'm nosey lol) And she was texting the same guys about the same things. I need advice on what I should do? I really love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): You THINK you love her. Huge difference. Since you're going to dig this hole deeper for yourself regardless of what anyone tells you here, I'll help you dig your hole even deeper.
Let her keep doing what she does. Regardless of how you feel, this is the way to go. You might as well turn a blind eye and pretend it's all good, because she loves you. Mhm.
Seriously, I am not being sarcastic here. People, most people will probably tell you to forget about her and find someone that deserves you, but I'm giving you advice that you want to hear - something that will support what she's doing to you.
Now, it's easy. You either A) follow my advice or B) loudly yell "NO MARTINI! SCREW THIS CRAP, I'm getting my own life back!" and get out of this crappy 'relationship'.
By the way, I need a new door mat. You mind coming over to replace mine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I am a lesbian and she is bi-sexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): You have two choices, keep playing this game with her in the pointless hope that she will change her ways and you wont get hurt, or you can leave her.
Do you wanna be her doormat forever?
I mean why would she change, when all she has to do is apologize and cry and alls forgiven?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 I'm sure you do really love her but painful though it is going to be there is only one answer to this and you know it; I think you want people on here to suggest an alternative but sadly there isn't one. She's got to go. She has already left you seven times and she clearly can't honour the promises shes made to you. You have to be strong and get rid.
The alternative is a slow lingering emotional death as everytime she goes out you are going to be wondering who she is with and what she is doing. Cutting her out of your life now will be painful but it will be a sudden intense pain compared to months on end of what to be frank will be emotional torture. It's rather like the difference between the guiloteen and having your head sawed off with an ordinary kitchen knife. Eventually the same end will be reached in any case because this relationship is clearly dead.
Sorry, but I see no alternative...tell your friends and family what you are going to do so they can be there for you and dump her. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): You should talk with her and speak what you think about it, than you see that she respect your opinion or not,and if she doesn't respect you finish the relation,because it's terrible stay bad, and cry, so put you in the first place and not her.ok? kiss
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Let me see... is your girlfriend bisexual? Are you a lesbian or you put on your user "Female" by an accident? Look, true love always forgive, so give her another chance, or ask her for time to think abou your rlationship. I know you guys gonna be alright in the end :)
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reader, elizabeth12 +, writes (17 February 2009):
 I dont think its her fault, its yours. You dont really know wether they were just friends. If you dont let her her freedom, she is the one who should break up. Dont be so extremly jealous. Im pretty sure they are just friends. And if you love her, then you have to accept that you arent the only person in her live.
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