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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and one of my best friends are not talking right now.There was this girl who I was very close 2... she humiliated me and made me feel like crap... I stopped speaking 2 her and until this day I remember what she used to say 2 me/...She used 2 say things like ur a nobody... I don't have a boyfriend and best friends and families who love me... only she does..She used 2 hurt me and she was so fake ...My best friend knew about her and she approached my best friend just 2 get into me... now they're friends...I explained everything 2 my bestfriend and yet she still bcame friends wit da gurl...I talked 2 her about it and she got mad saying that I need 2 stop and blahh blah blaahh...Now we're not talkinAs my bestfriend was she suppose 2become friends wit her and plus am I wrong for getting mad????
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 No sweetheart you are not wrong here.
You feel betrayed and rightly so, this awful girl that said the dreadful things to you in the first place was obviously jealous of you in some way, perhaps because you had a better life than her? I'm not sure, what was your situation at the time when she lashed out at you.
Did anything else happen prior to her saying all these things to you, had you done well at something or was your best friend and you having a fun time or something?
The fact that this girl got close to your best friend so that she could find out things about you says it all, she is jealous and wants what you have. It won't last so don't force the situation.
I think you need to surround yourself with a lot more friends as the one you had is obviously not as strong as you thought and can be easily lead, she will probably come to her senses at some point and will see this girl for how shallow she actually is, then she may come crawling back but how you react to her is really up to you. Do you want a friend who betrays you in this way?
You need to get busy and stay that way with family, or perhaps work colleagues or go to a gym or join a dance class something that they aren't doing, don't sit around being miserable as that would just give this awful girl the ammunition she needs that you are now vunerable and lonely without your best friend, prove her wrong, show yourself for the strong young woman you are.
Don't back down as I don't think that would work, your best friend has hurt you and she should be the one who apologises, she has placed more trust in this awful girl than you and that just isn't nice at all, a TRUE friend wouldn't do that.
Mind you there is a level of immaturity in all of this so you would be the better person if you forgave your best friend if she did come crawling back, however be very wary as the cow of the girl who started all of this could use your best friend to get information from you as there seems to be a hidden agenda to all of this, WHAT IS HER PROBLEM EH!!!!!
Stay strong, keep your head held high and don't stop smiling, don't let them get to you as you are better than they are and so keep busy girl and show them what you are made of OK.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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