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writes:Okay first of all, thanks for taking your time to answer this :)There's this girl I recently met, and it's been 3 months since I first met her and we both like each other very much. We came to the verge of going out once and I even asked her out. But she wasn't quite ready because she was scared to let in someone in to her life again, considering her past relationships. And we both agreed to get to know each other first. She's the "keeper" kind of girl. And I'm quite good looking and I have a good personality I guess, so that's not the problem here. Things went pretty well for about 2 months.Then we went through a tough time. We had a lot of fights. And things became pretty awkward between us. And now she's suddenly acting really weird. She has this attitude, and it's pretty obvious that she's trying to get this "play hard to get" game going. And I'm not the "Chase a girl" type of guy, I don't cling on to one. I get the girl or I turn away... but she's too much to turn away from.. So I thought of giving her another chance. So now I'm stuck where I am!Will I look "needy" if I try calling her or texting her again and stuff? (She makes sure that she waits at least 30 minutes to reply me back and she doesn't answer the phone sometimes). Is it better to leave it as it is or should I give her some space and time to figure everything out? And she's going through a tough time with her studies too.Thanks in advance people! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): She could be acting this way because she is unsure of your feelings, girls play hard to get to find out if a guy really likes them of if he's going to bail when he gets one thing.
Personally I hate games, I prefer if people just said how they felt and what they wanted (maybe im too idealistic). Since you are here writing on this site, why don't you make that more and tell her you want a proper relationship with her. Tell her you are there for her, reasure you're not going anywhere.
At least you will know if it has a future and you can stop wasting your time if it doesn't. If she still plays hard to get well you know she's just the attention loving type and my advice would be to move on.
If you want her as your girlfriend (you said she is the "keeper kind") well you're not going to know unless you put yourself out there and then you can judge her reaction.
Thats not chasing her thats finding out where you stand, for you're own sake so you can move on if you have to.
Good Luck.x
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