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writes: Hello, I could really do with some advise on a few problems in my "great" relationship. I've been seeing an amazing girl for 7 months, and all i seem to do is chase her and get repeatedly rejected. We keep in contact throughout the day through email and txt. then when i try to arrange to see her, i get a undecided answer. She very rarely pays me any compliments and its starting to make me feel like shes not interested in me. She's still in contact with her (childhood sweetheart) Ex and sees him roughly once a week. She informs me every time she sees him to make sure we dont have any awkward crossings. It didnt bother me too much to start off with but she's mentioning him more and more when we do see each other. Up until recently, we were working diffrent shift patterns, hers being the early one and mine being untill 2 in the morning. I blamed this for a while but now, because she was getting earlie nights. ive now changed my shift pattern to one simuler to hers, its still putting pressure on the relationship. we see each other about 4 nights a week but only because ive almost begged for her to come round. Its been so long since shes arranged to do anything involving me. I've tried to talk to her about this but her response was "its just me, like it or lump it".Am i being too needy and obsesive or do you think its not worth fighting for?? Help please!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, needafriend +, writes (17 December 2006):
needafriend is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot, you put a smile on my face. ill keep you posted ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Sorry to hear about your dliema, it sounds like she's being harsh with you. I think what your really need is to tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels about you. What ever you do though do not make her choose, you have to remember us girls will always choose our friends, as friends are the family you choose for you self, boyfriends can come and go. Is there no way you could do stuff with the both of them, i know it will be aqward at first, honestly i know as i still have contact with my ex/first love and my husband still sees his first love and after a while we all get along fine. Just be honest with her, tell her how you feel and what she can do to make it more bearable, you should prehaps bring up the subject off the 3 of you doing something and prehaps bring along a single girlfriend of the both of you to even things out, and you never know romance may florish between the two singles then you'll have nothing more to worry about, at least if you bring up the suggestion she will see your making an effort and not just telling her to stop seeing him. At the end of the day, like i told my hubby, Were ex's for a reason, if we honestly thought it would work we would still be together.
Good Luck.
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