A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am a really unsecured person, I met this girl more than a year ago at a summer camp program and we have been together since the third week we met it has been amazing so far. We got so close together and we know each other so good but the problem is that we are young(not that young) we're 16 and her parents don't let her have a boyfriend, we been boyfriend and girlfriend but because her parents trust her and she doesn't want to loose that trust we have broken up, I met her parents and they like me but still her dad doesn't give her permission. So for right now she is my girl but not in a official way(friends with benefits I suppose) we love each other. But there is times when we argue because she lives apart from me and she is a really outgoing person. The distance has been a major problem and we broke up once because of it. We went out twice first time we broke up is because the distance second because of her parents trust. The first time we broke up she told me she was going to wait for me but she went out with someone else. I go visit her around once a week. So I went out with someone else too that was a problem. Now we are together again and i go visit her more often but we fight a lot and I don't know what do because we argue about the same thing thing me being unsecured and her being so selfish. We argue and its got to that point when I asked her if she wants to end what we have and it hurts I love her I done so many things for this girl and she only cares about her self, yes she has told me she love me she has done things for me but she keeps being the same selfish girl and she is always running away when I'm trying to fix things up I ran out of ideas so I had to ask dearcupid.org. So what can I do ?
View related questions:
broke up, insecure Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, w0trh-it +, writes (30 December 2009):
first you have to love yourself before you love someone else. Obviously your girlfriend only loves herself and she lives in a lie.like when she said she will wait for you and end up going out with someone else.I think she still young and she need some time to grow up.she's confused right now and afraid of serious relationship because she still live with her mom and dad.Be patient and maybe things will turn out for the better.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): You didn't give any examples of how she is selfish, however, if she is too selfish for you not to argue, then it's best you leave her. Act like you have other options. Look for someone more suitable, and don't go back to her.
Also, she's an outgoing type. She'll probably want to experience being with another outgoing type eventually.
...............................
|
