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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:one night about 6months ago i was out with friends and i saw this gorgeous tall brunette and i fell for her big time. we had a great night together my friend hooked up with her friend. and we all had a party afterwords. we had a great night and i also thought there was a good spark between us. we went on a date two weeks later in her home town which is 15 minutes from mine and had another great night we ended up spending the whole weekend together and sleeping together. i enjoyed it but i do agree we should have waited a bit longer before sleeping together, but when your in the moment and the drinks in the wits are out!! that weekend she informed me she had being seeing this guy a couple of weeks and that it was coming to an end. when i heard this i completely backed off as i didn't want to be in a situation like that. about a month later she texted me out of the blue to see how i was...... she explained to me that she had finished with that guy, so i invited her round to mine the next week. we had dinner a couple of bottles of wine and one thing lead to another and it was amazing, after that moment i fell for her big time! we began to see each other more frequently for a couple of weeks, i invited her to a family wedding, a weekend in my old home village and i began to really start having feelings for this girl as she was everything i ever wanted and more. a couple of weeks later we hadn't seen eachother as much but were still in contact via email or phone after little under a month she landed down with me, she stayed the night we had wine etc and she dropped the bomb shell-she thought she was pregnant. So i asked her to go to the doctor and confirm it, she went and he told her she was 8-9months gone. she told me it was mine for sure but as you know i had to count the days myself in my own head (without her knowing of course) the baby was conceived the weekend in my old home village. i told her i would support her in everyway possible as i was kinda shocked and excited at the same time. the reason i say excited is i'm 30 and always wanted a little baby to pass on my experiences in life too. but not under these circumstances of not knowing the girl to long. we were in contact a lot after that for a short time and the shock of the situation started to settle in big time with both of us. She became less and less interested in our relationship as time progressed which started to irritate me a little, as time after time i would invite her to mine, out for dinner, cinema anything that would get us meeting face to face but with no joy. the girl is now 16 weeks pregnant with our child and i am a little heart broken at the fact that our romance is now none existent and there is maybe a possibility my child might be living in a different house than me in months to come. i know we live in the 21st century and things are a little different these days but i come from a loving family and never thought i would be in this situation. i always thought id one day fall in love with a gorgeous girl get married and then have a child. time has progressed and i have tried everything in my power to try and convince this girl without trying to pressurize her that i would like to see her more and help her as two is always better than one!?????? but i think i have gone a little bit far or pushed her away or maybe she had came to the decision that she wanted to go solo before I told her how I felt. i can say that my feelings have grown a little more towards this girl at the fact that she is going to be a the mother of my child and in a way playing more hard to get if that makes any sense?- you always want more of something that you cant have and this is really upsetting me. i live in ireland and as most of you know there is no jobs here anymore so i decided to go back to college 2 years ago to pursue my master in engineering. i have this year left but at the min I’m torn as to leave and get a full-time job to help support her and the kid. She is 29 lives at home and is being supported by her family, the child is due the beginning of may next year around the time of my finals. but i cant concentrate with my studies as i cant stop thinking about my feelings for this girl. i can say that i am not the kinda guy to where his heart on his sleeve but i'm emotionally f...d up at the min and i don’t know what to do. as when we talk on the phone its like I’m talking to a stranger, not the fun person i met months ago. i can appreciate that her body is going though changes and she is more hormonal but this doesn’t excuse her disrespect towards me. I believe I haven’t done anything wrong apart from the obvious to make her have bad feeling towards me. She has also informed me that the first scan is next Friday and she is bringing her mom instead of me……. This has kinda annoyed me as I would’ve liked to see the picture of my kid first but I have to shut my mouth as to not peee her off any further. I’m always a very cheery and confident guy but this has knocked me for six. i have been through much worse things in my life but this has gotten me very down in the dumps lately and is affecting my study, life etc. can anyone help me see light at the end of this tunnel????? Or will we ever get back to the place we were happy together????
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