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writes:I need opinions! Please ! I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months she left her boyfriend of 8 years for me ! She is pregnant now and since she has become pregnant has been thinking that she wants to go back to her ex. We are amazing together never fight argue or anything ! We both have love for eachother and she has told me that she knows that we should be together for the baby but can't get past her feelings for him! He has taken her back and says he doesn't want anything to interfere with them rebuilding their relationship but in 4 months the baby will be here and I am going to be a big part of her and its life! Will her feelings change once the baby is here and she realizes how much work it is and the fact that he will probably resent the baby because it is mine ! will she come back to me so that we can raise it together ? most of her friends and her parents don't like him and think she should be with me since we love eachother and for the sake of the baby!! Will she come around with a new respect and love for me the babys father ??? Help Please
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 I really don't know whether she will come to her senses but she sounds to me like a scared, insecure little girl who only knows one person to turn to when she gets low: her ex. After 8 years, this is all that can be expected, even though he may not be what's good for her.
You need to give her the space she obviously needs. She may come back to you when she realises what she's done, she may not. Either way, you need to think about your baby right now, not her. Is it going to be safe with them two? Will they let you see it?
I really feel for you, you seem to really love her but she doesn't sound very stable and being pregnant won't be helping matters. Give her time and space and she might take you back. But if the ex continues to take her back whenever she gets low, she will do it forever. I could never be involved with someone who is stuck in the past and women like this never get over the men they fall for, no matter what an idiot the man can be. My advice is steer clear and think about the baby for now.
Good luck.
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