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writes:My friend would like me to find out if it is good sign that she has been going out with this man for a month, and she nearly always pays for him and her, or just her portion of what they do on a date? In other words he rarely pays for his share or her's when she is on a date with him.She also would like to know that since she has also foreplayed with him on numerous occassions then why is he not having sex with her or pressuring her to have sex with him? Is this normal or good sign that this relationship is healthy?Finally, she would like to know is it normal that after being out with this man, if it is normal for men to not ask any questions about who she is as a person. What does this say about this man?She kindly thanks anybody for help to these questions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): Wise up girl leech comes to mind for him and door mate for her. You need to drop this leech immediately and then ask yourself why have you let this scum bag treat you like this for so long. Your friend needs a serious amount of self love and need to work on yourself before you get involved with some loser again. HE IS USING YOU AND YOU ARE LETTING HIM USE YOU.
There is nothing wrong with paying your own way or paying for your partner but never attempting to pay for you ever. Get real love.
As for the fore play business Are you giving him blow jobs ? and paying for his meals! Wake up and see the situation for what it is. Dump the man and feel good about yourself for doing so and waking up and having the satisfaction for ending it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): She should ask him why to all these questions.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (17 August 2007):
 tell her to dump this cheap man unless she wants to be treated this way he is trash now CAN HIM!!!!!!!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 This is not usual. I think your friend is being used.
First, I wonder why he doesn't feel bad that she is paying all the time. Some women like to pay, some don't; but a man who never pays doesn't sound like a good man.
Then, he's obviously not interested in the person she is, and is not interested in sex. I say, your friend is wasting her time and being used. She should stop seeing this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): To add to what Pete has said, in my opinion, this man is a cheapskate.
He's really not interested in her as a person, nor in attempting to cultivate a relationship.
She pays when they go out - he gets a free restaurant or fast-food meal; free movie, free drinks at a pub or club.
What does she get?
Nothing.
Not at all a healthy (pseudo-) relationship. She'd do better to ditch this *man. He's had enough of a free ride.
*AKA "leech."
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 IMHO I think the guy/man/male should be the one paying for dates. I guess it's gentlemanly and although I'm all male I believe it makes the female feel good when a man pays for her food and drink (and garage flowers).
As for the non-sex issue - he may not be "Ready" for it yet but it is good that he's not pressuring her to hop in the sack with him, it show's he isn't desperate.
I believe on the questioning side, it should be 50/50. I.E. She asks a question He replies He asks a similar question. Questions seem to make good conversation and help you get to know the person. So maybe he should ask a few more questions to get to knew her in and out.
Good luck to your friend
Pete =]
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