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writes: HEY EVERYONE, I need some quick advice, before I get myself into some trouble, by being innocent.I've been invited to attend a welcome back party this weekend by a friend who is a girl, she knows the family that have invited her, but not their friends.I don't know these people, as I've never meet them, but my friend has asked that I accompany her, so that she doesn't feel left out, right, so I'm going. I'm social, and like to make new friends, when I see people have the same interests, and actually make a conversation but I'm a little worried that she might have asked me to go, to "look" or fill in the space of the boyfriend. We're both single, and I'm not looking for a relationship, and we're good friends, I don't want anything more, or less. and she knows that, several months ago, she broke up with her long term boyfriend, so i've been there to support her.What do I do when we get introduced, or when i introduce myself, Hi my name is X, AND this is my friend Y, what if i say something to make her sad, but she knows were only friends... plus I don't want her to feel uncomfortable, I don't want to pretend to be someone that I'm not.What do I do? i know I'm being paranoid, but i don't want to do something to make us both uncomfortable, or look like fools. She is a close friend, but Not a "girlfriend".Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): I would avoid the whole friend or whatever and just say Hi, my name is X and this is Y. Anyway, what else would you call her besides your friend??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): If this girl is just your friend then what the hell are you worrying about? what if you attended a party with a male friend, would you be worrying then? i think not! I think maybe you are secretly attracted to this girl, as i say, why all the worrying if the two of you are just friends? its behond me! sorry mate but i think this is a bit petty. GROW UP! FROM AUNTY CAROLINE
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): By saying you're a "friend" can imply many things. I mainly refer to my gf as my friend to everyone. Only time I refer her as my girlfriend is when she's not around - to give people an idea how she relates to me.So when you go to that party, say, "Hi, my name is Chuck, and this is my friend Norissa. How are you all this fine evening?"Now whatever other people think, is out of your control. If they asks you what her relation to you is, you can simply say, "She's my best friend" or "She's a very good and close friend", then quickly change topic to a similar manner but directed at the person asking it.
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