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writes:My girlfriend of 5 yrs has recently left me and i am finding it very difficult to move on. She says she loves me, but she's not IN love with me anymore. We have been through alot in our relationship, 4 miscarriages but it made us stronger. She says she couldnt wish for a better boyfriend but we got together too young, im 28 shes 25. She is now in a relationship with someone else after 2 months and i hear she is going to live in Australia with him for a year, which was something we always dreamed of doing together. It has totally broken my heart and the pain doesnt seem to ease. Knowing she has moved on so soon really hurts. I KNOW its all over i just cant let go. Thanks for reading. Any advice on how to be strong??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): I understand your situation and something nearly identical happened with me. As the other posts say, it will not be easy moving on. You will feel upset, and rightfully so, for quite awhile. To me, it seems callous that she would move on so quickly from a long term relationship of that sort, but it is perhaps her just trying to cope herself. She is going to go out and do something different, something interesting, and it may be in your best interest to do the same. You could pick up tomorrow and take a train across the country, if you wanted. Just do not forget that the pain you feel will pass, and you will be happy again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for taking the time to offer advice to my problem. I know there is no quick fix to feelings so i guess i have to accept its going to be a long road but eventually i will find happiness again. Its just very hard to imagine my life without the girl who, in my eyes, was perfect. Knowing i will never be a part of her life again and not starting a family together is devastating me, all my hopes and dreams gone. Life is very lonely without her. Thanks again. Any other advice would be appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Aww, that would be so hard to deal with. Time is always a good thing to heal a broken heart. I know everyone must say that but it's true. You may be the best boyfriend a girl could ask for but you can't make this particular girl love you. She has said she is not IN love with you. There is a difference of being in love and loving someone. You must take all of the happy memories with her and grow with them. You will take on your good qualities to another relationship, and make another woman very happy. Everything in life happens for a reason, even though it hurts like hell right now. You'll be able to get through it. You'll look back and say, "Wow, she was really an awesome girl and we went through alot together but this girl I'm with now is definitely the one." You sound like a strong man, and with time you will feel better everyday. All the best to you, and don't ever quit being you.
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